Thursday, June 20, 2013

Peace of Mind by Julie Graf Skinner, Funeral Planning Specialist

The journey of being a caregiver can be exhausting and confusing. Caregivers are often left to make many decisions for themselves and their loved one regarding end of life care. One of the most important factors in addressing end of life issues is creating a plan prior to an event or crisis.
As a funeral director, I often meet with families that are unprepared for the decisions and plans they are faced with. Many of them have never had a meaningful conversation about their funeral wishes. This lack of planning forces survivors to make decisions of necessity rather than decisions of choice. Unfortunately, this is sometimes intensified by survivors that don’t have great working relationships with one another or are emotionally and financially ill prepared to make appropriate decisions. Losing a loved one is a difficult experience for anyone to go through, but the weight of the loss can be lightened knowing we provided them with their final wishes exactly as desired.
There are many benefits to advance funeral planning:
1. Allows for many urgent tasks and decisions to be handled before a time of emotional upheaval
2. Eliminates doubts for survivors about funeral preferences and disputes about expenses
3. Provide peace of mind that wishes are expressed
4. Ensures that funeral expenses have been addressed
5. Allows for necessary legal documents to be gathering and filed with a funeral professional
I encourage you to have a meaningful conversation with a funeral professional to record personal information, funeral preferences and plans related to funeral expenses. Many people are unaware that they can make plans, record their wishes and learn about the many funding options that are available. I believe the hardest part of this process is making the call to talk to a professional. It takes a great deal of energy to avoid something and often people find out it is easier than they imagined. The most common things I hear at the end of a planning session includes: “That was so much easier than I imagined”, “I had no idea that I could make payments on my funeral”, “I feel so much better knowing that that this will be easier for my children”.
Once again, I encourage you to take the next step, make the call to set an appointment… I would be honored to help you.
Julie Graf Skinner
Busch Funeral and Crematory Services
Funeral Planning Specialist
jgskinner@buschfuneral.com

440-333-9774

Friday, June 14, 2013

Please let me sleep...

Almost 64 million Americans regularly suffer from insomnia each year. But I'm sure most of us have experienced times when we just can't fall asleep or stay asleep.  Here are a few ways to beat insomnia/sleeplessness.
1. Have a nightly routine to signal your mind that it's time to calm down and prepare you for sleep
2. Use lavender; the scent is scientifically proven to promote relaxation
3. Eat a handful of walnuts before bed because they are a good source of a sleep-enhancing amino acid.
4. Don't like walnuts, eat a banana before bed since it is a great natural source of melatonin, the sleep hormone.
5. If you still can't get to sleep, get up and do something.  Trying to fall asleep can exacerbate the problem.

Friday, May 31, 2013

Elderly Skin and the Sun

As we age, our skin thins, becomes more delicate and less able to block the sun’s damaging rays.  

Some good skin care tips:
1. Drink plenty of water and fluids to keep skin hydrated.
2. Use a sun shade, beach umbrella or stay in the shade of a porch, especially between 10am-4pm which is when the sun’s rays are the strongest.
3. Wear long pants and long-sleeved shirts to cover skin.
4. SPF 30 is the preferable strength for sunscreen as it absorbs 97% of harmful UV rays.  Apply sunscreen multiple times a day, even if it is a cloudy day or you are staying indoors.  The harmful UV rays are able to pass through clouds and glass.


Everyone, no matter the age, should take care of their skin, especially when in the sun.

Thursday, May 23, 2013

Caregiver Tip: Grieve your Losses

Caregivers have many losses they are grieving.  They are grieving their loss of a role in the family, loss of their independence or alone time, loss of how their loved one once was and many more.  Allow them to grieve and help them to dream new dreams in their new role.

Thursday, May 16, 2013

Turn on the Lights

As we age we require 2-3 times the amount of light needed when we were younger.  Have extra lights to entries, doorways and stairways.  Night lights in hallways, bedrooms and bathrooms are also very helpful.  The extra lighting can help prevent falls, especially from the bed to the bathroom.

Monday, April 29, 2013

Caregiver Tip: It's all right to accept help


·         When people offer help, accept the offer and suggest specific things that they can do.

Monday, April 15, 2013

About Hospice by Healther Ligus, Provider Relations, Crossroads Hospice


Hospice is a philosophy of care. It treats the person rather than the disease and focuses on quality of life. It surrounds the patient and family with a team consisting of professionals who not only address physical distress, but emotional and spiritual issues as well. Hospice care is patient-centered because the needs of the patient and family drive the activities of the hospice team.

Roles and responsibilities of a hospice team:

Physician. The physician is responsible for identifying the patient’s need for hospice and making the referral for hospice services. They are encouraged to remain involved as a member of the patient care team, and to actively participate in the hospice plan of care.

Hospice Medical Director. The hospice medical director provides an oversight of patient care and support to the hospice team. The hospice medical director attends a team conference to discuss the plan of care by assisting in establishing goals, and participating in decisions regarding patient care.

Registered Nurse Case Manager. The registered nurse case manager coordinates the plan of care with the physician and hospice medical director through initial and ongoing nursing assessments. The nurse visits the patient two or three times a week, or as needed, to ensure all distressing symptoms are effectively managed and that patient and family needs are being met. The RN supervises all care provided by the licensed practical nurse and home health aide, and coordinates care with the other members of the hospice team to ensure patient and family spiritual and psychosocial needs are met.

Social Worker. The hospice social worker provides initial and ongoing psychosocial assessments of the patient and establishes a psychosocial plan of care. The social worker normally sees the patient once or twice a month to provide emotional support and ensure patient and family psychosocial needs are being met. The patient/family or any member of the hospice team can request additional psychosocial visits as needed. The social worker can provide assistance to the patient and family such as helping the patient with a Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) order, assisting with finding community resources, and making arrangements for nursing home placement or transfer to inpatient care facility. The hospice social worker can also provide counseling to the patient or family in times of crisis.

Chaplain. The hospice chaplain provides spiritual support to the patient and family as needed. The chaplain visits once or twice per month or more often if requested. The care provided by the hospice chaplain can address religious issues, however the focus of care is more spiritual, in nature, than religious. Care by the hospice chaplain is non-denominational.

Bereavement Counselor. The bereavement counselor not only supports and guides the family through the bereavement period after the loss of a loved one, but can also help the patient deal with the grief associated with declining health. The bereavement counselor can provide bereavement services to the family up to a year, or longer, after a loved passes.

Home Health Aide. The home health aide assists the patient and family with personal care needs and light housekeeping. They also teach family members the correct and safe method for providing personal care to the patient. The home health aide supplements the care provided by the nurse case manager.

Hospice Volunteer. The hospice volunteer provides companionship and support to the patient and family. All hospice volunteers are required to attend volunteer training at the hospice. The volunteers frequently perform needed errands and light housekeeping for the patient and family.

Hospice Myths and FAQ's:

There are many questions, and myths, about hospice. Below are answers to some the most common questions asked. They will give you get a better understanding of what hospice is and how it can benefit patients and their families.

What is hospice care?
Hospice is a philosophy of care. It treats the person rather than the disease and focuses on quality of life. It surrounds the patient and family with a team consisting of professionals who not only address physical distress, but emotional and spiritual issues as well. Hospice care is patient-centered because the needs of the patient and family drive the activities of the hospice team. 

Is hospice only for people who are dying?
Hospice is for people who have a limited life expectancy. (Actually, we all have a limited life expectancy, so it is more specific than that.) Hospice is for patients whose condition is such that a doctor would not be surprised if the patient died within the next six months. This doesn't mean the patient is going to die in the next six months--it simply means that he or she has a condition that makes dying a realistic possibility.

Who is best suited for hospice care?
Hospice patients are those with very serious medical conditions. Usually they have diseases that are life threatening and make day-to-day living very uncomfortable—physically, emotionally, or spiritually. Some are in pain. Others experience difficult symptoms such as nausea, extreme fatigue, and shortness of breath. These symptoms may be caused by the disease, or they may have been caused by treatments intended to cure the disease. Often patients turn to hospice because they are anxious or depressed, or they are feeling spiritually distressed because of their medical condition. Hospice specializes in easing pain, discomfort, and distress on all levels. The care provided by hospice is often helpful for conditions such as cancer, heart disease, COPD (emphysema), advanced dementia, or a general weakness and "failure to thrive." Seriously ill patients who have decided that their priority is to have the best quality of life possible are the people who are best suited for hospice.

Isn't using hospice the same as "giving up"?
Not at all! Although your loved one's condition may have reached a point that a cure is not likely—or not likely enough to be worth the side effects of treatment—that does not mean there is nothing left to do. In fact, an emphasis on quality of life and easing pain and distress often allows the patient to spend his or her last months focusing on the things that are ultimately the most important and meaningful. As one man put it, "I'd rather spend my time with my children and grandchildren than waste my limited time and energy driving to the treatment center and recovering beside the toilet bowl." With the expert guidance of a nurse and case manager, as well as the assistance of bath aides, social workers, and chaplains, patients and families find they can focus on their relationships, healing old wounds and building wonderful memories together. Far from giving up, hospice helps families truly live well and support each other during a stressful, but, in the end, very natural family life passage.

Should we wait for the doctor to suggest hospice?
You can, but oddly enough, doctors often wait for families to bring it up. This is part of the reason that people often receive hospice care so late in the process. If you think your loved one and family might benefit from the support of weekly home visits from staff who specialize in pain control and the easing of distress, ask your doctor if hospice might be something to consider now, or in the near future. If, when you are truly honest with yourself, you realize that you would not be surprised if your loved one were to die in the next six to twelve months, ask the doctor if he or she would be surprised. If the answer is anything close to "No, I would not be surprised," then maybe it's a good time to begin a discussion about hospice. If you would like more information, please feel free to call us toll-free 1-888-603-MORE (6673). We would be happy to talk with you or to do an informational home visit—no obligation or strings attached.

When is the best time to start hospice care?
Most patients and families who receive hospice care say they wish they had known about it earlier, that they needed the help much sooner than they received it. Research has shown that hospice can increase both the quality of life and how long a patient lives. Families who receive hospice near the very end--just a few days to a week--have been shown to have a harder time adjusting during the bereavement period than do those whose loved one receives hospice care for weeks and months before passing on. If you even think that your family and the person you care for could benefit from pain or symptom management, assistance with bathing and grooming, emotional and spiritual support, and telephone access to caregiving advice, ask your physician if hospice might be a service to consider. Experts agree that at least two to three months of care is optimal. It is better to ask sooner rather than later so you do not regret having missed the support that hospice has to offer.

Who pays for hospice?
If the patient has Medicare and meets hospice eligibility requirements, then the government will pay as much as 100% of the cost. In such a case, there is no deductible and no copayment. Not only are the services of the hospice staff entirely covered, but medical supplies and prescriptions relating to pain and comfort management are also covered. Individuals who do not have Medicare coverage but have coverage from private insurance should talk with their insurance company to find out about eligibility and what deductibles and copayments may apply. Medicaid provides coverage, but it varies by state. 

Once you begin hospice care, you cannot leave the program?
A person may sign out of the hospice program for a variety of reasons, such as resuming aggressive curative treatment or pursuing experimental measures. Or, if a patient shows signs of recovery and no longer meets the 6 moth guideline, he or she can be discharged from hospice care and return to the program when the illness has progressed at a later time.

Is hospice a place?
Hospice is not just a place – it’s a service. Hospice brings physical, emotional, and spiritual care and support to wherever our patients call home.

Does hospice only care for cancer patients?
Hospice is not just for cancer patients. Crossroads Hospice cares for patients with any life-limiting illness. Among the illnesses our patients have had are cardiac and respiratory diseases, renal disease, and neurological illness including Alzheimer’s disease, Lou Gehrig’s disease, AIDS, Cirrhosis, and others.

Is hospice only for housebound or bed-ridden people?
Hospice is not only for those who are housebound or bedridden; most are living their day-to-day lives.  Care is given where ever the patient lives; in their home, long-term care facilities, assisted living or retirement communities, rest homes and hospitals.

Hospice over-medicates so they become addicted or sleep all the time.
When patients have a legitimate need for pain medication, they do not become addicted to it. Crossroads Hospice has the expertise to manage pain so that patients are comfortable yet alert and are able to enjoy each day to the fullest extent possible, given their medical condition.


Heather Ligus
Provider Relations
Crossroads Hospice
216-654-9300